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“Is There Anything Worse Than Being Ordinary”

Someone said this to me recently and in a way it made my heart ache.  In my opinion, being ordinary is much underrated.  It is what most of us are and if you are your own brand of  ‘ordinary’ you are ahead of the game.  you don’t have to be famous or fabulous or extraordinary to be special and wonderful.  Trying to be the best, the smartest, the prettiest, most talented, most creative, – the ‘most’ of anything is a recipe for disappointment, self criticism, self-hatred and low self-esteem.  If you are always comparing yourself to others you will always fall short in some way.  To be the best that you can be is quite enough, even though that is a cliché.  Labeling yourself as ‘ordinary’ in a pejorative way is so very sad.  All we have to do is look around to know that fame, fortune, success, and talent does not guarantee happiness. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I am a psychotherapist in private practice for over 30 years. I see individuals & couples in therapy & counseling from all walks of life and with all manner of issues. I hope you will find this blog interesting and informative. Every therapist is different and works differently. These are just my musings.

Today I would like to share an experience that to me illustrates how some people worry about what therapists think.  I was once at a dinner where a woman said of my work that it must be awful because I see people at their worst.  I told her that in fact it was just the opposite.  I see people at their best – when they are the most sincere, most vulnerable and most real.  Except for a very few who don’t stay anyway, I like them all.  I am never put off by the presentations because I can understand and empathize.  That people think so many things are shameful amazes me.

That’s all my musings for today. I liked the following article from Psychlology Today.

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