All therapy is about the connection. People don’t believe it matters to the therapists, but it does. One of the most difficult things about being a therapist is that you rarely know what happens after someone leaves. Occasionally people keep in touch, but it is like being involved in a living soap opera – and I don’t mean that in a pejorative way – and never knowing the end of the story. Of course I know if someone leaves and is feeling better or leaves and has not made much ‘progress’ and of course many come back at a future time – but I never really know. These patients are not lost to me. I never forget anyone or their stories. I just don’t have a view anymore. That makes me sad but it is not about me and is just a natural part of the work.