Infidelity

Infidelity is an issue for at least half the couples that I see. Cheating can shake the foundations of a relationship to its core. But although it is usually thought that infidelity will put an end to a relationship, I have not found that to be the case. I treat infidelity as a symptom of something amiss in the relationship itself. That is not to say that there are not those who can’t stop cheating or those with sex addictions and the need for constant validation. But for the most part, infidelity is a communication by acting out of inner anger, rage, dissatisfactions & disappointments. It is commonly thought that men express this by cheating more than women do. That is probably statistically true, although women cheat too. But women tend to express verbally what bothers them, whereas men may have more difficulty doing this. Women also tend to be more willing to try to get past infidelity. I think men have a harder time. If this means I am unfairly sexist in my view, so be it. But again, these are only my observations.

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